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Meghan Markle: The Ultimate Feminist Icon

Rejecting royalty and giving rise to feminism.

Wow. Rejecting Royalty? Is it not a D.R.E.A.M. to become royalty? For like, everyone. I mean Kings and Queens. Princes and Princesses. Crowns. Jewels. Gold. Money. Status.

Mind. Blown.

But, you know… it kind of makes sense.

What is Royalty, Really?

When I was a young girl, I believed the royal family was special. I thought their blood was different. I thought they were born with pixie dust flowing through their veins. I thought royal meant something.

And if I’m being perfectly honest, I didn’t truly know that royalty means literally nothing until Meghan Markle rejected it.

Now I know.

Royalty is a sham. It’s nonsense. It’s a group of people who won some battle, however many hundreds or thousands of years ago, who then decided they were better than everyone else, they get to rule over the land, and they get to take money from all the people of that land for eternity, forever and ever, Amen.

Why would anyone continue on with this absurdity? Why are we still doing this?

The Oppressive Nature of Royalty

A royal family, by nature, is oppressive. There is a certain dynamic present.

A small group of people are entitled to special treatment, exceptions, regards. They are to be addressed in a specific manner. They’re paid out of tax money collected from the public. They serve no legitimate purpose.

How necessary are royal designations for a functioning society?

What other red-blooded human can designate themselves ‘above others’?

In a world full of inequality and inequity, royalty is simply a mirage of tradition and order covering up accepted inequality of power and money.

Royalty is segregation. Wealth itself is a dis-equalizer, we do not need special titles and tariffs to remind us that we already struggle to co-exist as humans.

Why Reject it?

Why, if offered money, security, power, and status, would someone choose to reject royalty?

I used to believe I would love living life as a celebrity. I used to think being photographed with a latte in People Magazine was a dream.

Then I got older, and I started a family. I realized the richness that lives in a quiet life, in a quiet neighborhood. The security that lives in anonymity. The status that comes with pride in your own choices and paving your own way.

As royals, Meghan and Harry did not have choices, they had obligations. For the rest of their lives.

They have all the money in the world, but it’s spent already and their directions are already set. And their time is already scheduled.

Meghan was losing her ability to create a life she wanted with the new family she started.

The Realities of Parenthood

As a new wife and mom, my life was a blank slate, to be determined—only—by my husband and myself. We were not on anyone’s schedule but our own.

As a new mom, especially, life was overwhelming but it was also a lot clearer at the same time. I realized what was important to me, what I really wanted, who I wanted to be. I knew exactly what path I wanted to follow—a path that had been completely unclear to me up until this point.

I couldn’t have anticipated that I’d want to become a writer and stay home with my kids. I thought I wanted to be a lawyer and have a powerful job in a big city. I thought I’d have nannies and send my children to elite private schools.

I think of that life now and I laugh. I had no idea who I would become after I had children, but that person was not it.

Making Our Own Way

For centuries, women have been forced to make their own way. We’ve had to fight for equal rights, voting rights, land owning rights. We continue to fight for equal pay, reproductive rights, and to be equally represented within the government.

Women are increasingly seeking out ways to contribute financially to their families while staying home with their children, which is why 53% of freelancers are now female.

Women have to make their own way because the world has not yet allowed sufficient room for us to exist. We’re still elbowing our way through.

Meghan is no exception. She is a woman who, like many other women, discovered exactly who she wanted to be after she graciously accepted the titles of Wife and Mother. She realized how the acceptance of those titles, and the expectations of society, were hers to accept, or reject.

Meghan is the ultimate feminist icon because she embodies the very changes women go through to discover themselves. She lives these changes out loud every day and she pursues her happy without apology.

She is refusing to work within a world that has not yet made sufficient room for her ideal life to exist. She is paving her own way because that’s what women have always had to do to get what they want.

Our ideal realities do not welcome us, we fight for the space to build them, and for the time to work on them, and for the recognition to flourish in them.

So for the record Meghan, I get you. I feel you. I, too, switched gears and flipped my life upside down. It was the best decision I ever made for myself and my family, and you will not regret it.

Breaking Down the Monarchy

Make no mistake—the existence of the monarchy will now be questioned.

Seeing someone leave the royal family at such a high rank shakes the very foundation royalty was built on.

If it—royalty—is not inherent, if it is not special, and exceptional, if it can be simply rejected, then what really is royalty?

It’s just a belief. It’s a mass belief that those people are different.

And we can also choose to believe that they’re not.

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Lover of lattes, champagne, avocados, sleep, and my perfect family. The epitome of a liberal millennial snowflake.

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